Well, this is really the crux of the issue isn’t? I mean, we’ve all quit. Sworn off. Said, “I’ll never do that again” or said, “I’m not going back to him or to her or to that.” Or thought, “If I do that again, I will just die.” But inevitably, drugs and alcohol have pulled you back into a lifestyle that on the surface makes zero sense, but when looked at rationally, shows that in essence, many are simply repeating the pattern of their traumatic upbringing or history.
So how do we prevent relapse? How do you stay sober? If it were that easy for the addict, we wouldn’t need a treatment center. We wouldn’t need outside help. We wouldn’t need 12 step groups. Or Smart recovery. Or refuge recovery. Or psychotherapists. Or psychiatrists. So how can we conquer this?
Often the relapse happens way before the person themselves takes the first drink or uses their first drug. Addiction can be described as a vice grip in your gut slowly twisting, getting tighter and tighter over time. Sometimes weeks or even months will pass before things become critical. In some cases, the resentments get stronger and the fears get bigger and the little problems of life tend to become giants. These things fester until finally, the “straw that breaks the camel’s back” occurs and the addict finds themselves using, and the alcoholic finds themselves drinking once again.
In fact, the same voice that comes up with this “tremendous” plan that whispers in the ear of every addict and alcoholic, “you can do this” or, “it won’t be that bad” or, “only this once” leads to disastrous results. Usually within the first 30 seconds or a minute after using, the addict or alcoholic becomes extremely remorseful and ashamed. They often wonder, “how could this happen again?”, “You were just in rehab why did you go out and use?” or, “After all this time, why did you have to pick up?” The guilt and shame over the last relapse is devastating.
And Lifesync Malibu Healing Center we have an intensive four week program that is comprehensive in nature and is designed to give each client the requisite skills and tools necessary in order for them to stay sober.